Children are like wells waiting to be filled with information—and information about money
can be a helpful topic to begin exploring at a young age. Behavioral scientists at Cambridge
University have encouraged parents to start teaching their kids about money as early
as 3 years old, when they’re starting to learn their numbers and discover the difference
between wants and needs.
Your kids see you buying things, but does your preschooler understand where money
comes from—and the different ways it’s used or saved? Does your 10-year-old know how to
compare prices on that toy he’s saving for? Does your teenager have a savings account to
earn interest on earnings from parttime work—and upcoming graduation gifts?
If not, it might be time to have a conversation. The earlier kids understand how and why
money is earned, saved, and spent—the better their own money skills are likely to be.
Does an allowance help or hurt kids’ understanding of financial matters?
Should you give your kids an allowance or not? The answer depends on whom you ask. For
example, an article by Ramsey Solutions says your kids don’t need an allowance—they need a commission for doing work to earn money.
Many families give their kids allowances that are tied to chores, so the fine print about
whether it’s a commission or an allowance is up to you. If you incorporate chores and
other expectations (such as grades) into the allowance, it’s less likely to be considered an
“entitlement,” and your kids learn the relationship between work and pay. What you don’t
want, though, is for your kids to get the idea that chores always deserve pay instead of
counting as their contribution to the family.
How much should an allowance be?
If you choose to give your kid an allowance, consider what might be an age-appropriate
amount to help your kid meet any goals you’ve worked out together. Also, look at your own
budget and determine how much of an allowance you can comfortably afford. Some parents
choose a weekly sum that is equal to their kid’s age, and others choose a weekly sum that
is half their kid’s age. Others choose a monthly sum that is determined by their kids wants
and needs—and any terms you’ve included.
After you’ve decided if and when you’ll pay an allowance—and how much—make sure
your kid understands all the terms. For example, is it tied to grades, chores, behavior—or
something else? Is there a requirement to add a portion of their allowance to a donation jar
or a saving’s jar? Are your older kids expected to use part of their allowance to buy their
own necessities?
Other options—and the most important consideration
Adding coins and bills to piggy banks or to glass jars can be a helpful lesson in math, and a
source for great conversations with them how much they want to save, what they’re saving
for, and whether they want to donate any of their cash to charity.
If they’d rather not have coins and bills collecting in piggy banks or jars, you may want
to look into cashless app options such as BusyKid, iAllowance, or Greenlight—if you think
your kids are old enough and have a phone or tablet. You may also want to shop around
for a kid-friendly bank account that doesn’t have a minimum balance requirement or will
waive fees. If you find one, take your kid with you to open the account together and turn the
experience into a teachable moment.
Use your experiences—good and bad—to teach lessons in money
Despite the growing number of online money apps and guidance, the most important
resource for teaching your kids about money and finances is you. They’ve watched you
mulling over decisions to spend money or not to spend money. Start a conversation. Be
transparent. Help them to learn from your mistakes, successes and processes—just as you
have. Remember that every family is different, and you should choose the option the works
best for you, your kids, and your family overall.
Educational resources
The Consumer Financial Protection Bureau has helpful resources you may want to explore—
including answers to common money questions asked by kids and downloadable books for
kids about the Money Monsters. A good starting point is the Money as You Grow guide.